Limiting beliefs are so common that I’ve been wanting to write this article for some time now. This self-criticism is a normal shared human mental pattern that we are all familiar with. This inner voice is sometimes referred to as the gremlin on our shoulder or chatterbox in our head.
While this inner roommate can sometimes help us to be productive, if your negative voice is preventing you from doing what you want or need to do in your life, then it has to get booted out.
Deeply held negative beliefs, especially when they’re firmly rooted in our unconscious, stress us out, damage relationships and can greatly limit our potential for health and happiness.
If you’re sick of having the same old conversation with your negative inner roommate, then be sure to try some of the ideas I’ve outlined on how you can shift away from this damaging mindset, and finally release yourself of and conquer limiting beliefs.
What are limiting beliefs?
Limiting beliefs can be identified by listening to the little, but persistent voice that convinces you that you can’t be or do or have something due to a perceived inadequacy in some area of your life or personality. The voice is critical often to the point of being rather rude!
Your negative narrative usually goes something like this:
- I won’t ever be [this]…
- I can’t do [that]…
- I don’t have [this]…
- I don’t deserve to be/have [this]…
And, one really common one that seems to be universal for many people is… I am not good enough.
Let’s change up the narrative you may have been having with yourself!
How Limiting Beliefs Impact Your Life
Your limiting beliefs have shaped everything you do. And they may have prevented you from seeing opportunities and maybe even discouraged you from trying some things at all.
The good news is that you can permanently change a long-held belief – no matter how long you’ve had it.
You only perceive what you believe, so your beliefs shape the very world you live in.
When your limiting beliefs come into question, your whole world can experience a shift for the better.
Eliminating Limiting Beliefs
When you find yourself feeling “stuck”, or repeatedly spinning your wheels on the same speed bumps that life might be throwing your way, it’s always a great idea to seek out the help and guidance of a life coach, counselor or therapist.
In addition to that, there are several things you can do on your own, in your own time and space…
Start with AWARENESS
Time to bring those disempowering thoughts out of hiding! Once you do that, you will know that you have a choice.
However, just simply being aware or having knowledge of them is not enough, it’s just the first step. You must understand and truly believe that you have a choice about how to react.
Your mind is a powerful thing, and when you fill it with thoughts of what’s possible (not just positive thinking), your mindset will start to shift.
When you believe something IS possible, you will notice options and opportunities coming up for you that you would not have noticed if you did not believe it was possible.
With repetition, your positive feelings will intensify, the new neural connections will strengthen, and you’ll start to notice just how awesome your new thoughts really feel!
Reminding yourself frequently of these little wins can further shift your mindset and help you embrace the bright side of your perceived “failures” or shortcomings. It also helps to simply accept that you are perfectly imperfect, just the way you are!
Do a Reality Check
Your limiting beliefs are the assumptions you make about your reality that are often not true. They aren’t helpful, and they certainly don’t serve you or the goals you want to achieve.
Ask yourself: would I say these negative, hurtful and unsupportive words to a friend?
“It is not my job to please everyone else.”
“Just be me. There will never be anyone else like me.”
To swap out your limiting belief with a more empowering one, you’ll need to convince yourself that the value you thought you were getting from the former limiting belief isn’t worthwhile. That way your new empowering belief can serve to fill this void.
Ensure that you are creating space in your life for these new empowering beliefs. Take action and get into the habit of using your new beliefs as often as possible until they begin to feel comfortable, familiar and routine to you. It’s a bit like changing your diet…it takes time to make it completely routine.
And remember – you have the ability to harness the power of the possible! Overcoming negative self-talk and being able to conquer limiting beliefs takes commitment, introspection and a good dose of self-confidence to make the necessary changes stick.
There’s the old saying that we view ourselves through a much harsher lens than the rest of the world does. So, let’s try to bring our own lens back into focus.
If you would like to discuss how you can create the thoughts you need to support achieving your health goals, schedule a call with me now to discuss.